Remianen
02-06-2006, 08:14 PM
What seemed destined to be a great year, isn't looking so rosy anymore. This weekend was the worst in recent memory.
Friday night, my best friend and I came to a mutual agreement to split up. Since October, we had tried to move into a romantic relationship to see how it would pan out. On paper, it would've been a match made in heaven. In reality, ehh not so much. We've been best friends since preschool, our families are close, she's seen me at all stages of my personal development. We've been inseparable since early childhood. But once that line was crossed, I learned stuff about her that I wasn't privy to before. Like, with me, unlike any of her previous boyfriends (and I've known them all), she became extremely possessive. An example was, in November we were in Victoria's Secret. I go there a lot for gift cards and stuff for those late additions to the Christmas list (I do most of my Christmas shopping in the summer). So I'm talking to Connie, the asst manager, who I've known since this store opened in this mall (I've also booked her parents on two cruises, so I know at least a few of her family members), and Jess starts looking at us funny. I don't sweat it because she knows how I feel about cheating so it can't be that. But after we left, at some point, J-Rey went back to the store and had words with Connie. I found out about it when I got an email from Connie telling me what happened. Didn't bring it up to J-Rey though.
This has happened several times since then and it was beginning to really irk me. I'm a social type who firmly believes in the "It's not what you know, it's who you know" motto. So I know a lot of people and socially, I get around. Add to that the fact that many of my clients are women, and I see this becoming a serious issue in the future if not sharply curtailed. So I brought it up to her and we had a very long (~6 hr or so) talk about that and various other things. That's when I found out about the dealbreaker: she doesn't want to have any children. It shocked me so bad, I had to say "Uhh, run that by me again?". This is a serious problem because I want like 15 kids. Okay, maybe not 15 but as long as I can afford to support them and it's not a medical risk to have them, I want to have more than 2 (maybe 5-9 would be good). To her credit, she's not willing to budge on that. She has issues with the world as it stands now and doesn't want to bring any more children into it. But, she also doesn't want to have to deal with children overall. So after a few days of thought, we both decided to go back to being "homies". The "with benefits" part is still up for debate (I'd rather not, honestly).
Then I wake up this morning with my cell phone blazing, to find out that Chango (a close friend who works for us as a "security consultant") caught a case last night. Assault with GBI ("intent to do great bodily injury). Apparently, some guy smacked his sister on the ass at Exit (a club here) and some words were exchanged. Chango found out about it (he's "doing" one of his sister's best friends) and tracked the guy down and put the hurt on him. Now, Chango is 6'5, 300+ and I don't know how this guy measures up but he did spend the night in the hospital. So he gets his hearing in court today (which amazed me, quite honestly) and, because of his priors (in 3 states) his bail is set at $500,000. Lemme say that again. His bail on an assault charge is set at half a million dollars. So I've spent most of today, filling out paperwork and arranging for wires, really hurting at having to put up that much money. I can't fault the man for doing what he did since, in his shoes, I can't say I wouldn't have done something similar. I'm just extremely grateful that, though he had a gun on him at the time, he didn't use it.
But it don't stop there.
This weekend, I had a bunch of friends and family/extended family here for my Super Bowl party. Several of these folks are ex-guildmates from EverQuest. One couple who I used to "work" for when Remianen (my druid) was a wee one, asked me if I had done any "secondary market" stuff since then (I was their courier, being a teleport capable character. I'd pick up the lore items they looted, port & run to Freeport and hand it off to one of their mules. I was "paid" in ingame items like FBSS, Mithril Runed Tunic, etc. This was pre-Kunark to about 4 or 5 months into Kunark). I told her about stuff guildies did and stuff I helped on. At this point, Aaron and Marilyn came over. They were guildies of mine (he - cleric class leader, she - druid class leader) who met in EQ a few years ago, hooked up in person at the Baltimore Fan Faire, and did the whole marriage thing and had a baby last year. Aaron and I played some CoH and I let Lyn play Deltashrike for a while (and she loved it!). And then Aaron drops the bomb on me: Lyn's pregnant again. Given their financial situation, adding another mouth is going to put a serious crimp in things (they each have one child from a previous relationship and Aaron's daughter lives with her mother so child support payments for her). So I told him I'd help them out in my own way (the plan is to cover two family vacations a year for the next 5 years. Easy to do for me but really helpful to them, I think). But now Lyn has taken it upon herself to get me hitched. :rolleyes: "You do too much for other people. You need someone to do for and to do for you." That scares me, to be honest. I seem to attract philandering psycho harlots primarily, but I'm somewhat of a control freak in regards to my personal life (I lose interest really easily), so the thought of someone else handling that aspect kinda gives me pause. Worst part is, as soon as Lyn mentioned that, several other women present took up on it. Now they have a challenge/bet/contest going on to see who can "make the best match". Now, I'm absolutely terrified. :look:
So I think I'm gonna telecommute this week. Barricade myself in the crib and try to figure a way out of this. I'll be 33 in less than a week and need to find a way to get some balance in my life.
Friday night, my best friend and I came to a mutual agreement to split up. Since October, we had tried to move into a romantic relationship to see how it would pan out. On paper, it would've been a match made in heaven. In reality, ehh not so much. We've been best friends since preschool, our families are close, she's seen me at all stages of my personal development. We've been inseparable since early childhood. But once that line was crossed, I learned stuff about her that I wasn't privy to before. Like, with me, unlike any of her previous boyfriends (and I've known them all), she became extremely possessive. An example was, in November we were in Victoria's Secret. I go there a lot for gift cards and stuff for those late additions to the Christmas list (I do most of my Christmas shopping in the summer). So I'm talking to Connie, the asst manager, who I've known since this store opened in this mall (I've also booked her parents on two cruises, so I know at least a few of her family members), and Jess starts looking at us funny. I don't sweat it because she knows how I feel about cheating so it can't be that. But after we left, at some point, J-Rey went back to the store and had words with Connie. I found out about it when I got an email from Connie telling me what happened. Didn't bring it up to J-Rey though.
This has happened several times since then and it was beginning to really irk me. I'm a social type who firmly believes in the "It's not what you know, it's who you know" motto. So I know a lot of people and socially, I get around. Add to that the fact that many of my clients are women, and I see this becoming a serious issue in the future if not sharply curtailed. So I brought it up to her and we had a very long (~6 hr or so) talk about that and various other things. That's when I found out about the dealbreaker: she doesn't want to have any children. It shocked me so bad, I had to say "Uhh, run that by me again?". This is a serious problem because I want like 15 kids. Okay, maybe not 15 but as long as I can afford to support them and it's not a medical risk to have them, I want to have more than 2 (maybe 5-9 would be good). To her credit, she's not willing to budge on that. She has issues with the world as it stands now and doesn't want to bring any more children into it. But, she also doesn't want to have to deal with children overall. So after a few days of thought, we both decided to go back to being "homies". The "with benefits" part is still up for debate (I'd rather not, honestly).
Then I wake up this morning with my cell phone blazing, to find out that Chango (a close friend who works for us as a "security consultant") caught a case last night. Assault with GBI ("intent to do great bodily injury). Apparently, some guy smacked his sister on the ass at Exit (a club here) and some words were exchanged. Chango found out about it (he's "doing" one of his sister's best friends) and tracked the guy down and put the hurt on him. Now, Chango is 6'5, 300+ and I don't know how this guy measures up but he did spend the night in the hospital. So he gets his hearing in court today (which amazed me, quite honestly) and, because of his priors (in 3 states) his bail is set at $500,000. Lemme say that again. His bail on an assault charge is set at half a million dollars. So I've spent most of today, filling out paperwork and arranging for wires, really hurting at having to put up that much money. I can't fault the man for doing what he did since, in his shoes, I can't say I wouldn't have done something similar. I'm just extremely grateful that, though he had a gun on him at the time, he didn't use it.
But it don't stop there.
This weekend, I had a bunch of friends and family/extended family here for my Super Bowl party. Several of these folks are ex-guildmates from EverQuest. One couple who I used to "work" for when Remianen (my druid) was a wee one, asked me if I had done any "secondary market" stuff since then (I was their courier, being a teleport capable character. I'd pick up the lore items they looted, port & run to Freeport and hand it off to one of their mules. I was "paid" in ingame items like FBSS, Mithril Runed Tunic, etc. This was pre-Kunark to about 4 or 5 months into Kunark). I told her about stuff guildies did and stuff I helped on. At this point, Aaron and Marilyn came over. They were guildies of mine (he - cleric class leader, she - druid class leader) who met in EQ a few years ago, hooked up in person at the Baltimore Fan Faire, and did the whole marriage thing and had a baby last year. Aaron and I played some CoH and I let Lyn play Deltashrike for a while (and she loved it!). And then Aaron drops the bomb on me: Lyn's pregnant again. Given their financial situation, adding another mouth is going to put a serious crimp in things (they each have one child from a previous relationship and Aaron's daughter lives with her mother so child support payments for her). So I told him I'd help them out in my own way (the plan is to cover two family vacations a year for the next 5 years. Easy to do for me but really helpful to them, I think). But now Lyn has taken it upon herself to get me hitched. :rolleyes: "You do too much for other people. You need someone to do for and to do for you." That scares me, to be honest. I seem to attract philandering psycho harlots primarily, but I'm somewhat of a control freak in regards to my personal life (I lose interest really easily), so the thought of someone else handling that aspect kinda gives me pause. Worst part is, as soon as Lyn mentioned that, several other women present took up on it. Now they have a challenge/bet/contest going on to see who can "make the best match". Now, I'm absolutely terrified. :look:
So I think I'm gonna telecommute this week. Barricade myself in the crib and try to figure a way out of this. I'll be 33 in less than a week and need to find a way to get some balance in my life.