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Valcarde
11-12-2005, 04:04 PM
I think I have one of the wierdest roomate situations here.
I live with two guys. Well, one a 1/2 guys. The 100% guy I have no problems with, he's been my bud since college. Well, other then the fact that he dated my sister. And had sex with her while I was in the next room. O_o
No, it's the -other- one that's the main problem. Living with a pre-op transexual who is currently taking hormones and goign through puberty again. Mood swings. Bitchyness. Self-centeredness. Ego. And forgetting that, yes, other people live in this house. Has a tendency to play ****ty jap-goth screamy death metal... at 4:00 AM in the gorram morning, when I've just gone to bed. And pulls a hissy fit when you DARE to ask hir to turn it down, and will proceed to go into an agnst-fit and make it look like you're performing some hideous hate crime on hir for DARING to try to sleep shen shi wants to listen to ****ty japgoth screaming music.
Oh, and the kitchen... well, anything in the house requiring cleaning that isn't hir room. When I moved into this place, the agreement was shi was the one who was supposed to be cleaning the kitchen. Well, since march, shi's cleaned the kitchen maybe... 4 times. And the last time was when I'd already half-cleaned the kitchen to begin with. Hell, the first time I cleaned the kitchen completly, shi came home, -proceeded to go into hysterics and yell at me for cleaning the kitchen, lock hirself in hir room, and proceeded to call hir mother to get her to to drive down and give said roomate comfort-! Of course, now that the kitchen is a mess (I haven't had time to clean it, shi does, has been to work maybe -one day- in the past week), shi eats nothing but take out so shi doesn't have to go in the kitchen!
I've gotten physically ill thanks to the kitchen, thanks to the lack of sleep (somehow, shi also can't sleep unless shi has ****ty japgoth screamy music playing), and you cannot say anything to hir or show the least bit of concern without getting your head bitten off. I'd love to pop hir one upside the headd, but I'm fairly sure it'd be prosecuted as a hate crime! (Let's see, white heterosexual male hitting a bisexual transgender person? There's a lynching waiting to happen.)
I gotta move... :grr:
I think I have one of the wierdest roomate situations here.
I think you most certainly do.
I used to have flat mates that would never clean the kitchen, I didn't care though because I didn't do it either. However, they were both bisexual (one a guy, one a girl) and the third time I walked in to an orgy in the bloody living room I had to leave. Lost my deposit but I was glad to be out of there.
Not neccessarily saying that's what you should do but I guess if you're unhappy with your living situation you should consider it.
Gold Rush
11-12-2005, 04:33 PM
I am pretty sure you mentioned all the things you could (like wearing headphones). Well, there are several ways to handle this.
1) Move out - You can either do it when "this person" is not there or just carry on the move while this person is yelling and screaming at you. I would tell the landlord (I am assuming you live in an apartment?) that you will move and this person is to be in charge of all the bills/contract from here on out. I would pay for the last month's rent. There are probably state laws you should really look into on roommate situations/contracts, because anything this person does WHILE you are still listed on the contract may come back to haunt/bite you. I would talk to the Landlord about this and explain the situation to them. I also would try to get some legal advice and ask them the same questions. Some law schools/professors may be able to help you with the basics or where to look.
2) Move this person out - There are 3 people in the household. Hold a vote. You can either state it fully to this person and even be helpful to locate another apartment for this person or you can be a bit mean and move all this person's stuff to the curb (although again, not sure about the laws; it may be better to put it in private storage where this person can have access to it).
3) Shame this person - I am sure the neighbors don't appreciate the noise. Ask them if it bothers them and if it does, tell them to call the police. There are laws about public disturbances that this person is not immune to. Get the community on your side. Explain to the police that it is not you causing the noise but your roommate and if they could talk to them and explain that you have tried night after night but this person refuses to turn down the music. Repeat as necessary. It may even be better if you were not home, but this person may not be able to hear knocking at the door.
4) Convince this person to move with other friends - Their may be likely a bunch of screaming, but suggest this arrangement is not working out. Perhaps it would be better if they moved in with someone else or by themselves, for them as well as you.
Try one of those, if you want to work from 4) to 3) and then choosing between 2) or 1), it might work best (although, there is a chance this person may force their way back into the apartment with their key; Don't forget to change the locks and make sure doors can't be kicked in...maybe protect the windows, too). If you want a speedier end, choose 1) or 2).
Gold Rush
Valcarde
11-12-2005, 04:36 PM
We've tried discussion. Hard to have a discussion with someone who turns everything into a personal attack >_< Shi gave hir two months notice... well, back in August, and is still here, citing shi can't find a place (which is hir own fault. Shi looked at one place then gave up).
The roomate that I can stand and I have been looking into a new place. The sooner we get outta here the better.
Meltman
11-12-2005, 05:10 PM
"Hir"...was that a Man-Thing reference?
Tsarmina
11-12-2005, 05:28 PM
Yowch. Get going and get going fast! I do hope you and your buddy find another place right quick!
Man, I do love living alone. :)
Valcarde
11-12-2005, 05:40 PM
"Hir"...was that a Man-Thing reference?
It's the only way to describe it. Either that, or constantly type he/she or (s)he or him/her.
WHAT?! Oh hell no.
First, that transexual thing would be my first hint to go. I'm not against homosexually, but living with a transexual is where I draw the line. IMO, you should have been gone. Playing music at 4 AM in the morning is unacceptable too. If it takes a couple good hits upside his head to get the picture, then so be it. If his female instincts are on point, he'll cower and start screaming and not fight back. The best thing would be to move out. A roomate like that just has no respect for anyone OR himself, and is just rude, so move out if possible. That's what I'd do.
Malibu Sally
11-12-2005, 06:31 PM
I think I saw something like this on Jerry Springer once.:P
Bari Jon
11-13-2005, 08:10 PM
WHAT?! Oh hell no.
First, that transexual thing would be my first hint to go. I'm not against homosexually, but living with a transexual is where I draw the line. IMO, you should have been gone. Playing music at 4 AM in the morning is unacceptable too. If it takes a couple good hits upside his head to get the picture, then so be it. If his female instincts are on point, he'll cower and start screaming and not fight back. The best thing would be to move out. A roomate like that just has no respect for anyone OR himself, and is just rude, so move out if possible. That's what I'd do.
Not reading what you write before you post it again, Yin? Bigotry and violence... great combo! :P
He does have a problem and that has nothing to do with whether this person is a male, female, both, or neither. This is a bad roommate, pure and simple. If you can't get rid of this person, move out. And please don't do anything stupid.
MaligneFamily
11-13-2005, 08:53 PM
Agreed with Bari John. The best situation should be to say plain and simply I need a more respectable roommate and leave any hints of transexuality out, as to avoid conflict...
coldcut
11-13-2005, 09:04 PM
I want a dolphinectomy.
Valcarde
11-13-2005, 09:07 PM
I want a dolphinectomy.
That sounds fishy to me, coldcut.
Seadevil
11-14-2005, 05:12 AM
Val, It sounds like you have a problem that only fire can fix.
Solario
11-14-2005, 03:02 PM
Val, It sounds like you have a problem that only fire can fix.
Oh that's your solution to everything.
ThunderMace
11-14-2005, 04:16 PM
I once set fire to my kitchen in my apartment in St. Louis so I wouldn't have to do the dishes. it worked. My landlady redid our kitchen and we ate out for 2 months. Problem solved.
Val your problem? You and your friend should move out. Leave 'hir' with the bills.
Sebastian Kain
11-14-2005, 07:09 PM
Well don't get me started on me and my roomates. :grr:
Yea what the others said Val, Get the hell on man.
Krypto
11-14-2005, 07:16 PM
I want a dolphinectomy.
I thought it was dolphinoplasty. :P
thebluecanary
11-14-2005, 07:18 PM
I am currently now running roommate free!!
He lost his job, and didn't do jack to getting a new one, so after a month, I told him to get the heck out. Granted he still owes me $1000, I'll get it from him somday..... yeah... sure.... monkeys out of my butt....
Charon
11-14-2005, 08:09 PM
Holy crap.
... No, really, that's my only input on the matter.
Valcarde
11-14-2005, 08:14 PM
On the plus side, the roomie I get along with and I have started to look for our own place in the same general area. Not much moving required, and we'll be free of the pain in the arse.
Not reading what you write before you post it again, Yin? Bigotry and violence... great combo! :P
He does have a problem and that has nothing to do with whether this person is a male, female, both, or neither. This is a bad roommate, pure and simple. If you can't get rid of this person, move out. And please don't do anything stupid.
Thanks, Bari! :)
Bari Jon
11-15-2005, 03:17 AM
No problem Yin
MaligneFamily
11-15-2005, 10:22 AM
Bah!
*tapes both their mouths...*
Bari Jon
11-15-2005, 03:34 PM
Bah! *wraps Maligne family into a ball of duct tape* :P
Masked Revenger
11-15-2005, 03:48 PM
I'm in with the move out people. This is a bad roomate, pure and simple. Sure, the hormones might be making it worse, but I'm willing to be that she would be just like that without them.
On the topic of transgender (and I want to preface this by stating that I've only ever known one transgender individual in my life, and he had already gone through the surgery), it's my understanding that you refer to them by the gender they are transfering to. In this case, she/her. This is not only considered polite, but also it's for their benifit. They are supposed to sepnd a specifid ammount of time as that gender before the surgery, so as far as she is concerned, she's a woman already.
Chris
Valcarde
11-15-2005, 04:25 PM
And I don't show consideration to people who piss me off.
Masked Revenger
11-15-2005, 05:14 PM
And I don't show consideration to people who piss me off.
Your perogitive.
Chris
And I don't show consideration to people who piss me off.
I would say something, but I don't think before I post. It's a bunch of violence and bigotry. :P
Valcarde
11-15-2005, 07:18 PM
Your perogitive.
Chris
More a case of 'I have shown consideration and concern for this person in the past, as has everyone else who lives in this house or visits it frequently, but when you ask someone how their day was and they proceed to tear your head off verbally, I don't give them consideration or concern anymore'.
AfterglowNoMore
11-15-2005, 07:40 PM
More a case of 'I have shown consideration and concern for this person in the past, as has everyone else who lives in this house or visits it frequently, but when you ask someone how their day was and they proceed to tear your head off verbally, I don't give them consideration or concern anymore'.
I knew what you meant, all you really have to do is read it in the context of the thread to know that you didn't mean it as derogatory towards the transgendered.
Masked Revenger
11-15-2005, 08:11 PM
I knew what you meant, all you really have to do is read it in the context of the thread to know that you didn't mean it as derogatory towards the transgendered.
What he said.
Chris
Remianen
11-24-2005, 03:20 AM
If his female instincts are on point, he'll cower and start screaming and not fight back.
ROFLMAO!
Man, am I glad I don't know many females like that. All the women around me would kill you if you hit them (and they wouldn't do a single hour of time for it).
Honestly Val, just get up outta there. Or, have someone show it that it's in its best interest for IT to get outta there. Oftentimes, fear of death is far worse than the death itself, literally and figuratively.
And did you know this person was a tranny before you moved in or let it move in? Also, see if your lease has a 'deviant behavior' clause in it. This may apply (though it's usually used in the case of drug dealers/crack houses from what I know of it). The loud music at those hours could also apply ("causing a disturbance"). You may be able to get this thing out through legal channels.
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