RL Kicks Me in the Teeth

[Gaia]

Okay here's a real downer from me. I thought I would let you guys in on the whole story.

Basically I was having a fight with my daughter (age 6) and trying to calm her down from the tantrum she decided to throw yesterday due to my not "Putting her hair in a top knot like at my recital". She wanted me to wet her hair, slick it with the gel, pull it back and stuff. On average that is a 20 minute job. We did not have 20 minutes to be at a restaurant. She proceeded to throw a temper tantrum which set me off. I called my mom (aka grandma) to tell her we were not going. My daughter (age 6) proceeded to grab my hand and bite the inside where the skin is between thumb and first finger. After which I got her to let go (it was bleeding) and she got on the phone and poured her heart out to her grandma. My mom said she would meet me at her house. That didn't happen.

Instead my daughter came back, knocked the laundry on the floor while screaming. I went after her to put her in her room and calm her down. While this was happening my son (age 3) called 911 and hung up. I was dealing with my daughter when a knock came at the door. It was the police. They came in and decided that my house was not a safe environment at the moment. That's when my mom walked in. She had called previous and heard my son talking to "the nice man with the flashlight and cool badge", then hurried over. I was given 24 hours to clean the place better or else CPS would have to take steps. I agreed and have been cleaning ever since.

As it stands the kids are staying at my mom's house for a couple days. The police and CPS agent will make a check on me tomorrow to see if the kids can come back or stay away another day. My mom for once is being somewhat supportive but my husband is pulling his "I'm indifferent to the situation" routine so I can't get anything out of him. He cleaned a few spots on the carpet last night, went shopping as I told him what to get, and vacumed a little. Other wise I've basically scrubbed the kitchen, bathrooms, kids rooms and master bedroon all by myself with no support from him.

I'm going to have to cut back on game time. Possibly even to the point of only playing after 9pm again and never on weekends. I'll be in counciling for marriage and family plus depression. So that's it from me.

[Half Life]

Well ****.....dont know of any advice I can offer to make ya feel better. Hope things work out for you in the end.

[Endless One]

Okay who the hell are they to decide that stuff. Then again I have a messy house. My ex never pitched in and back then it was messier. I hate it when the government walks into a situation and judges. You have my hugs and support out there Gaia!

[Kozzma]

With 2 teenage handicapped children I can say I hate dealing with the state / government.
As far as the children, you love them because they are your children. Do not let them run YOU. Granted that you have a daughter and I have little experiences with girls other than nieces. Grounding them, take things away, and oh that recital if it was hers threaten her with not going at all (although I am guessing you never made it anyways). I may say as to go as far as a smack on the but. If this is not the first time she bitten you, then bite her back, and then ask Do you like that?? It cured both my boys at age 3. they are 14 and 16 now and spoiled rotten but do what there told whether or not they like it.

This is just my opinion. My heart goes out to you. I wish I could help some way.
A close friend of mine went though this same situation with her 8 kids.
Your not alone, you have friends here and around you as well.

[thebluecanary]

WOW. I really have no idea what to say other then I hope everything gets better.

And i will leave this for you in the hopes that it cheers you up a little. Sorry I forgot the mask. I'll get right on it tonight.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v372/thebluecanary/CHU/Heroes/empyreal_1.png

[Larke]

oh Gaia I am so sorry :( *big hugs*

[Alumette]

Gaia:

I'm so sorry to hear about all this! I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. In terms of the game, do what you need to do; RL>CoH, always. :)

I hope things work out for you soon and we've got your back. I'll keep a good thought for you and your family.

[The Widowed]

As an ex-military fellow amidst a headbutting contest with the IRS at the moment, I can say that our lords and masters are indeed evil, controlling pricks. It's enough to make a monarchy look good; At least then we would have one nice, fat, convenient target for the peasant revolts. :grr:

So here's hoping the suits get off your back and let you have you ill-tempered children back. You'll be taking away their telephone privileges after this ordeal, right? >:]

[Malibu Sally]

@Wids: Since when do 6 and 3 year olds get phone priviledges?


@Gaia: Definitely time to put CoH on the back burner, if not off the stove altogether, until these things can be settled. Fighting the state is nearly impossible unless you are loaded. Hopefully they will relent.

And I hope Mr. Gaia is taking part in the counseling... Indifferent or not, he has to take part or it is all for naught. :(

[Seadevil]

Damn. My heart goes out to you, Gaia. I hope it all works out for you.

[Yin]

Awe, Gaia. :( I honestly don't know what to say. Just hang in there. It'll all work out for the best, I'm sure.

[The Widowed]

@Wids: Since when do 6 and 3 year olds get phone priviledges?
I know my kids wouldn't have phone privileges after getting me in trouble with the cops and the suits over a simple disagreement over hairstyles. :p

And I'm all for dragging the Husbandoid into counseling too. He sounds like a pretty soulless toad, just from everything that Gaia has said about him. What did you ever see in the guy in the first place, G? :think:

[Malibu Sally]

know my kids wouldn't have phone privileges after getting me in trouble with the cops and the suits over a simple disagreement over hairstyles.
Why would you be giving phone privileges to and SIX and THREE year old in the first place? Good lord... I'd hate to see what age you start letting them drive. :P



What did you ever see in the guy in the first place, G? :think:
*again... waits for Grae to make a really off-color comment* :P

[ThunderMace]

Sorry to hear that, Gaia.

[Tsarmina]

Oh Gaia, what a terrible thing to happen. I do hope you suceed in getting the husband to go with you... it's his marriage too.
*leaves a basket of oreos*

[The Widowed]

Why would you be giving phone privileges to and SIX and THREE year old in the first place? Good lord... I'd hate to see what age you start letting them drive. :P
How else are they going to call their Grandmama or, in the case of six-year-olds, their playground friends? Little kids aren't too dumb to use a phone, you know...like Gaia's story would suggest. :p

[MikeKAY]

See, the kids I can see getting into something like this. Kids are supposed to be irresponsible and reckless, completely lacking in understanding of consequences... they're kids! That's how they are! The best you can do is discipline and condition them until they are capable of understanding things for themselves.

Now your husband? That's what really burns my ass. He has absolutely no excuse to be irresponsible and he should know damn well what the consequences wrangling with the government can bring. It's his goddamn marriage and (presumably?) his kids! I don't care what he thinks is "his problem"... This is his *****ing problem!

He had better get his **** together on this. Take my word for it; fighting the Feds will suck the life, money, and dignity out of you LONG before you make any progress with them. For your sake Gaia, I hope to God that it doesn't come to that. :(

[The Widowed]

Don't sugarcoat it, Mike. Tell us how you really feel. :p

[MikeKAY]

What can I say? The conbination of misbehaved children, a delinquent husband, and government cruelty is more then enough to set me off. Especially when an innocent person is getting put through hell because of it!

And I work for the government. I know how big of ****s they can be! They never use lube, either.

[Tsarmina]

I nominate MikeKAY to go on over and 'explain' things. :D

[Kozzma]

Tito, Please loan MikeKAY your bat.

[Poison]

Lots of strength from us here, Gaia. Stay strong.

[Gaia]

Here's an update for all of you.

I was allowed to have the kids come back on Thursday but elected to let them stay over at my folks till Friday. This was due to my wanting to fix up a couple things special for them and also I had a counciling appointment at 8:45am. After which I went and cleaned my vehicle so it would be more presentable. I met my mom for lunch and took the kids home with me. My folks have come over to re-inspect and criticize for the last 3 nights. They were mad when they left today because I didn't have everything as perfect as they wanted (parents not CPS). They are now hanging the threat of calling in authorities everytime I do not tow the line with them.

I went for my first counciling session for my depression on friday then made an appointment with my doctor. She is going to prescribe anti-depressents, plus more dieting and exercise. My main obstical is the husbandoid. He refuses to get personal counciling for himself and is basically blaming his depression on both myself plus the way the place went all to heck. I am extremely pissed off about this turn of events and have said so to him. This is being ignored as another one of my rants. I'm calling tomorrow however to find a family councilor and an individual one for myself that has a weekly appointment schedule (the one I saw friday only does monthly plus over the phone checks).

Saturday we went to the rec center for Big Truck Day. It was really fun and interesting for the kids. The were even put on tv by one of the local stations. The news crew was getting ready to leave and asked my kids if they wanted to be on tv, of course they said yes. :)

I still have to put two more princess figures up in my daughter's room and Optimus Prime needs to be re-stuck to the wall in my son's room.

And on top of everything my computer has self destructed and the husbandoid is being wishy washy about buying the correct part needed. He erased the entire main drive, destroying two years worth of screenshots. I managed to stop him from attacking the movie footage and the drawings I've done. So now I'm relegated to begging to borrow his laptop or having nothing but a mac. He had the gall to tell me I could do my radio show from the mac. Yeah right. I'm without my comedy stuff, commercials or even my introduction pieces. Sure it will work. I don't know what planet he is on. :mad: :grr:

Thanks for all the well wishes and thoughts. *hugs*

[Charon]

I hope this situation works itself out for you Gaia.

[Dark AngelHawk]

As much as I hate to say it Gaia, something has to be done with the husband... You can't be doing this all on your own. It's ont only unfair to you but to the kids as well.

[RedSwitchblade]

I may be an *******, and wear that fact on my sleeve, but I'd love to find your husband and beat the **** out of him with my bare hands until I'm wearing his face on my shirt. He puts me and every other jerk on this board to shame.

[Yin]

Hrm.

I'll take the kids, and we'll watch High School Musical 2 until we pass out while Red and MikeKAY deal with the husband and your parents. I've still got all of my toys from when I was like, 7, and all kinds of video games, Disney movies, and a huge backyard. They don't need to be around the WWF match that'll go down.

I'll have'em back by 6 PM sharp. :D