Should I be creepy Facebook guy?

[UnSub]

So, a friend of mine recently convinced me to sign up for a Facebook account. And I, as you tend to do after signing up, searched for all the names of people I could remember and came across the girl who I went with to my school prom.

I was thinking of dropping her a line to say 'hi, how's it going?', but two things stop me:

1) My friends list is currently depleted, which makes me look a bit loser-ish imo, like I just got a Facebook account to cyberstalk people I used to know. (No, this is not a plea for Facebook friends - you Gurus scare and frighten me with your odd online ways ;-)

2) She's friends with some guys who I went to school with who I don't really want to pretend to have to like, or even respond should they contact me. Or at least they are on her friends' list - they might not use the Facebook account anymore.

So, do I become creepy Facebook guy? Or is this insight into how my mind works a textbook case of overthinking an easy situation? :-)

[coldcut]

If your ulterior motives are to revisist the event of her deflowering on prom night, then yes, it comes across as a bit creepy. (To chicks. We guys know what we're all about.)

If it's just a friendly thing with the outside chance of revisiting said deflowering, then you're in the clear.

She'll probably be glad to hear from you either way, assuming you didn't have some sort of catastrophic break up. In fact, scratch the last two paragraphs. The way you lost touch is the determining factor here. If there was a lot of screaming and red and blue lights, then it's probably best to keep your distance.

[iggy880]

You could wait and see if she finds you....

[Xielos]

You could wait and see if she finds you....

That kinda makes you come off even creepier. As a general rule, no good can come from these sites. You've been warned.

Look at it this way. Anything you need to know about someone, you're better off meeting up and asking about. If you want to get back in touch with her, thats great, but only use Facebook to get her phone number or other means of contact, do NOT use it to communicate.

[bpphantom]

That kinda makes you come off even creepier. As a general rule, no good can come from these sites. You've been warned.

Look at it this way. Anything you need to know about someone, you're better off meeting up and asking about. If you want to get back in touch with her, thats great, but only use Facebook to get her phone number or other means of contact, do NOT use it to communicate.

Wait... so... would my proposal of a 3-way between myself and this one chick I haven't seen since high-school and another chick I haven't seen since highschool (they never knew each other)... on their myspace pages... would be creepy? Hrm, gotta rethink this 'social networking/dating' thing.

:naughty:

:P

[Kozzma]

BPP, you have a mostly naked woman on you page being assaulted by tentacles, now that is creepy... what’s worse is the guy who put it there, now there is a freak.

Anyways, just be honest drop her a message (not a post) saying that you just got around to getting on face book, and you decided just to say hello. Leave it up to her to make the next move... if she is cool with you she will respond, and or add you to her friends.

[Kinetix]

Anyways, just be honest drop her a message (not a post) saying that you just got around to getting on face book, and you decided just to say hello. Leave it up to her to make the next move... if she is cool with you she will respond, and or add you to her friends.

This. And if she does want to communicate, make it real ASAP. Reliance on the internet for communication will only make things awkward if it ever becomes real. Find out if she wants to talk on the phone, or meet up for some lunch/coffee to catch up.

[WingedAvenger]

I think it depends on what your ultimate goal is.

If you're looking to hook up with this chick again, then by all means, follow the advice previously given.

If not, I wouldn't bother. What's it really going to accomplish?

[Kinetix]

If not, I wouldn't bother. What's it really going to accomplish?

Friends are nice.

[UnSub]

If your ulterior motives are to revisist the event of her deflowering on prom night, then yes, it comes across as a bit creepy. (To chicks. We guys know what we're all about.)


Heh - there was no deflowering on prom night. I had basketball practise the next day - 2 hours of fitness stuff - so I called an early night. Always kinda regretted it, but that's how life goes.

Besides, I'm married with kids - the last thing I'm going to try for is an internet relationship (she isn't even in the country, last I heard :-).

The 'friends are nice' comment from Kinetix is the sum total of my aim from this.

Anyway, I'm going to say hi in a message and leave the ball in her court. I'll let you know if this turns into Creepy Facebook Guy-dom or not.

[UnSub]

As an update - I said hi, she said hi, we chatted and we are now Facebook friends. I knew I overthought things...

[MikeKAY]

Just don't become like these guys... Facebook Off. (http://www.collegehumor.com/video:1761982)